Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Ruben - Jan 29-1968 - May 18-2008

My dear Son Ruben,
it's hard to believe for your Son, Parents, Family and all your Friends that you died on May 18, 2008, just passed the age of 40. In your own home. Probably by Heart problems. We hope you passed away without any hurt.

We will arrange a Funeral your style and allways at January 29 we'll have a gathering in the memory of you - friends and family. The symbol in the announcement will be a Pigeon and the

Here is the last photo I took of you. When you read your own poem to me on my 63 B D last April.
Your grandma was impressed both by the words and your performance. So were we all.

Excuse me, my dear Ruben, papa is crying, loudly. I'm gonna miss you. Like all the rest of us. Friends and Family.
Ingelin is back from Hong Kong and Mats is coming from Michigan - here in Oslo.
The memorial will take place at Kampen kirke, Monday May 26 at 1300, then at "Lompa". Wish you could have joined us.


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Blogger Janet said...

I'm so sorry about your son...how very sad and tragic and such a shock. My thoughts are with you and your family.

May 21, 2008 12:55 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Terribly sorry for your loss.
I am with you.

A Moroccan daily visitor

May 21, 2008 1:16 am  
Blogger Maribeth said...

Oh My Dearest Friend,
My heart is breaking for you now and for your family. The tears are falling down my face.
I know your pain like not many others do, and this is not what I would have wanted you to know.
Hold tight to your family. Hold tight to your memories. Hold tight to your dreams.
In time the pain will not choke you so and the memories will become sweet, even if you will always hate the fact that Ruben is gone.
My arms are around you and Anna. I send Cyber hugs to you both and I am here to share in your grief.
Love to you always,

May 21, 2008 1:45 am  
Blogger Sandee said...

I am so very, very sorry. What an awful thing to endure. I cannot imagine. My thoughts and prayers to you, your family and friends. A big hug from me to you. :)

May 21, 2008 1:47 am  
Blogger Dirkey said...

Oh I am so sorry Toraa, no words can express how sorry I am for you. May you find comfort and peace in this time. My heart goes out to you.

May 21, 2008 2:02 am  
Blogger Melli said...

Tor... I don't really know what to say other than to say that I am sorry. I can't even imagine the grief you feel... I hope I never have to. I do keep your family in my prayers, that God will provide comfort for you and your family through each other and through loving friends and extended family.

May 21, 2008 2:08 am  
Blogger Unknown said...

My dear friend, I hope you know I share your sorrow. My heart goes out to you and yours. I hope you are able to find some comfort in that you love your dear son well.

May 21, 2008 2:12 am  
Blogger duncan said...

Toraa, you don't know me but I feel I know you after reading your blog for many months. it saddens me deeply to read of your loss. Please accept my sincere condolences.

May 21, 2008 2:25 am  
Blogger Unknown said...

my heart is with you and your family.. The message is so heart felt that it brought tears to my eyes..

May 21, 2008 2:53 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tor, if I could only reach out to you and give you a hug, I would.

I know you and your family are hurt but you have to be strong for them. I will pray for strength and peace to you and your family.

Please accept my condolences.

May 21, 2008 3:08 am  
Blogger Ginnie said...

I am crying with you, dear Tor and Anna. My heart just breaks for you and your family. Please know that there are people around the world who are grieving with you and who want to sustain you in your mourning.

May 21, 2008 3:21 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Tor,

I hope youre doing good inspite of the sorrow in your heart.

maybe he passed without any pain,and its good to consider it a positive one?I don`t know...I really dont know what to say...

Condolence Tor...and I will pray for him,for you and all of your family as well....

a big hug,

May 21, 2008 4:25 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tor, I am very sorry to hear about the death of your son. There's never any right words of comfort. I hope he had a happy life. I am sure he will always be remembered.

May 21, 2008 4:31 am  
Blogger OldLady Of The Hills said...

Oh Tor...I am crying too. I cannot imagibe the incredible pain you are all in....It is so truly horrific, my dear....
My thoughts and my heart are with you as best they can be...I know this doesn't take the unbbelievable pain away...but prehaps it will ease it just a tiny bit, my dear dear friend...

To lose a child is the very worst thing that can happen. And so very young. It is not fair--in ANY way---not fair at all!

I hold you ALL close in my heart, my dear Tor.

May 21, 2008 6:07 am  
Blogger CanadianSwiss said...

So sorry to hear of you loss, Tor. How tragic! :( My condolences to you and your family.

May 21, 2008 6:25 am  
Blogger christina said...

I'm so sorry to read this. What a tragic loss for all of you. My deepest sympathies.

May 21, 2008 7:23 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Tor:
Its hard to find words and even harder to write as my eyes is full of tears. I know its impossible to explain the loss, but I admire your guts for telling the world this way.

What a wonderful contribution to Ruben and it shows how much you cared for him and how much he was loved in the family.

You know I'm here for you Dear Tor - any time and you know my number. If not before, I see you and family at the 29th.

My deepest sympathies to you and family!

May 21, 2008 9:36 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

We too were in shock and horror when you told us before.

I feel your pain, it is such a unbelievable pain. One of the hardest things to go through. Let it take the time it's needed.

No, life isn't always fair. *sigh*
This should not be happening. One can't believe it has happened.

One of the toughest things is to inform others of what happened, because it brings the pain up to the surface again.


"Only one sunbeam is enough to scare away many shadows". (Franciscus of Assisi

The sun will shine upon you again, just let the clouds empty themselves of the rain first....

I'll repeat: Our deepest, deepest from the bottom of our hearts and most sincere condolences.

Warm hugs x millions from your friends Mrs & Mr L

May 21, 2008 10:14 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My deepest condolences.

May 21, 2008 10:21 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I hope you didn't mind that I made my wordless Wednesday as wordless sorrow with an appropriate photo...

((big hugs))

May 21, 2008 1:24 pm  
Blogger Shionge said...

Dear Toraa,

I am so sorry to read this and my deepest condolence to you and your family.

You are so brave in breaking this to us and I'm sure your Son will find peace in heaven.

Be strong my friend, be strong and we share your moment of grief too.....

Please take care Tor.


May 21, 2008 1:26 pm  
Blogger MaR said...

Wish I could find the right words to say to you and your family...my deepest condolences, TorAa, hoping you find the needed strength to pull you forward...

May 21, 2008 3:52 pm  
Blogger Vlado&Toni said...

i'm so sorry to hear about your loss, there are just not enough words to say to you and your family. ..

May 21, 2008 5:08 pm  
Blogger Gattina said...

I think of you and your family members I learned to know through your blog. For Ingelin it also must be horrible to come back for such a sad event ! You have to go through to that now, I only wish that time will diminish the pain in your hearts. I'll will be with you on Monday !

May 21, 2008 5:25 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh! Tor! I just learn visiting Mrs Lifecruiser. There are no words...All my thoughts are with you and your family. Courage Tor. Je pense à vous tous.

May 21, 2008 10:23 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Tor og Anna,
My greatest sympathy to you and your family at this time. I know the heartache of losing someone close, but the pain of losing your child...it is too terrible to think of. Remember that our family is with you and supporting you in every way.

May 21, 2008 10:40 pm  
Blogger 1A said...

Deepest sympathies.

May 21, 2008 11:40 pm  
Blogger OldLady Of The Hills said...

Thinking of you and Anna, Tor, and the rest of your dear family...And sending you hugs and prayers....

May 22, 2008 1:48 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

(((I am so sorry for you and your family. I hope that you all find the courage within yourselves to hold each other up and keep each other strong throughout. May the power of the ocean fill your beautiful souls with strength.)))

May 22, 2008 1:48 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am really sorry for your loss... this is so unfair.

I hope you and your family find peace in this sudden tragedy.

Please, accept my deepest sympathy.

May 22, 2008 4:08 am  
Blogger Kim said...

My deepest condolences to you and your wife and family.
I wish you strength in the days ahead.

May 22, 2008 4:36 am  
Blogger Robbi said...

Tor og Anna,

My deepest condolences to you and your family. I am thinking of all of you.

Klem fra Robbi i California

May 22, 2008 5:37 am  
Blogger Diane@Diane's Place said...

Dear Tor and Anna,

I can't imagine the pain you are feeling right now. I offer my deepest sympathies for the loss of your dear son. May your memories of him be alive in your hearts forever more.

Love and hugs,


May 22, 2008 6:47 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. This is such a difficult time for you all but I hope all the beautiful memories of Ruben keep you strong.

a reader from Holland

May 22, 2008 8:11 am  
Blogger eastcoastlife said...

My deepest condolences to you and your family, dear Tor. I'm so sorry for your loss. Please be strong. Ruben is in good hands now.

Take care, my dear friend.


May 22, 2008 9:43 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

We´re sorry beyond words - sending our deepest condolences, loving thoughts and prayers from our home to yours, my friend...

May 22, 2008 10:02 am  
Blogger Sonny said...

I think no words can express how I feel after reading this sadly post. I'm so sorry for you.
Please be sure you're in our thoughts and prayers.

Long distance hugs to you.
&hearts Sonny

May 22, 2008 2:34 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry to hear about your son Tor. My deepest condolences to you and to your family. My thoughts and prayers to you and to your family.

May 22, 2008 3:57 pm  
Blogger Desert Songbird said...

I'm here from Sanni's blog, and I wanted to say I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your son. I hope that you get the answers you need to find some sort of peace in your heart.

May 22, 2008 4:05 pm  
Blogger Empress Bee (of the high sea) said...

please accept my deepest sympathy for your loss. so tragic. i am so sorry.

hugs, bee

May 22, 2008 4:07 pm  
Blogger Sarge Charlie said...

the loss of a child is an experience I have not had to endure, I do not think there is words that could comfort that pain. My thoughts are with you in this very sad time

May 22, 2008 4:18 pm  
Blogger Tink said...

I'm so very sorry for your loss... I noticed Ruben was of my birthyear. I wish you all the best in this difficult time and times ahead...

May 22, 2008 4:32 pm  
Blogger Balou said...

My heart goes out to you, your wife and family. So sorry for your great loss. ((hugs))

May 22, 2008 6:22 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

How did I find my way here? I am so sorry you lost your beloved son. I lost two brothers in 2001 who were 49 and and 54. Our family was changed forever, grief stricken but pulled closer together. After nearly seven years, I still look at the world for them through eyes they no longer have.

May 22, 2008 8:15 pm  
Blogger Linda said...

Tor and Anna,

My deepest sympathies upon the loss of your beloved son. Sending you thoughts of peace and hope in a world that I am sure has been turned upside down for you right now.


May 23, 2008 2:57 am  
Blogger Shammickite said...

Thank you for telling us of your tragic loss, Tor and Anna. My deepest sympathy is with you and the rest of your family. It must have been a great shock to you, to lose a beloved son, and so young too. My heart goes out to you. I am so sad for you and Anna and Ingelin and Mats. Hugs to all of you.

May 23, 2008 3:32 am  
Blogger Teena in Toronto said...

I'm very sorry, Tor.

May 23, 2008 3:59 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family during this difficult loss.

May 23, 2008 4:06 am  
Blogger MaR said...

Just to let you know my thoughts are with you and your family.

May 23, 2008 8:39 am  
Blogger Mother of Invention said...

I commented a few days ago when I first heard but it is not here. But you know that I am with you in spirit as you go through the pain of losing a child. Life can be unfair. You will have the rest of your close-knit family with you and all of us out here across the miles as you grieve.
It will be a lovely tribute you make to him on the 29th.

May 23, 2008 2:59 pm  
Blogger Joy Des Jardins said...

When I first heard in your e-mail a few days ago...I couldn't believe it....and my heart continues to ache for you and your family Tor....I'm so very sorry for your loss and your sorrow. It's the hardest thing a parent can ever go through, and I pray you and Anna find the strength to get through it together. You are a family with so much strength and love. God bless you all. My prayers are with you.

May 23, 2008 5:40 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry for your loss, Tor. I've only just found out about your son. My deepest sympathies to you and your family.

May 23, 2008 9:01 pm  
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May 23, 2008 9:03 pm  
Blogger Suzann said...

Tor and Anna - so very sorry for your loss - may loving memories sustain you both in this time of bereavement and mourning. You are in my heart -

May 24, 2008 5:26 am  
Blogger kuanyin333 said...

I'm so saddened to hear of your loss of your precious son, Anna & Tor!!!

My prayers are with you!!!

May 24, 2008 7:07 am  
Blogger lime said...

oh tor and anna, i'm sorry i am very late in making my rounds this week and i am only now getting here to hear this terrible news.

i am so very saddened to hear of ruben's death and my heart just breaks for the loss of your beloved son. there just are no words adequate at a time like this. know you and your family are in my hearts, my thoughts, my prayers and i am wishing you all the love, comfort, strength, and support you need in the days ahead.

May 24, 2008 4:21 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so terribly sorry to hear this news. My heart, thoughts and prayers are with you. I'm crying for and with you too.

May 24, 2008 8:04 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Tor and Anna, I am so saddened to hear of your tragic and untimely loss. What a shock for you and your family. I hope that you can draw close to those around you now and draw strength from the outpouring of love expressed here and by all the people close to you. They say time heals all wounds, but getting through till that time comes, is a difficult journey. My thoughts are with you and I wish for you to be able to find comfort in the cherished good memories. Peace be with you.

May 24, 2008 10:20 pm  
Blogger S said...

Oh Tor.....
I just don't know what to say.
I am so sorry.
There just is no way that I could say better what all these dear people above me have said so I will join them in wishing you peace.

May 25, 2008 3:46 am  
Blogger Veronita said...

Siento mucho la perdida, realmente me ha dejado muy triste, y me conmovieron las palabras de amor que le has escrito. Mi corazon y mis plegarias estan contigo y toda tu familia.
Un beso grande y mucha fuerza!

May 25, 2008 4:46 am  
Blogger Dragonheart, Merlin, Devi, and Chloe said...


We are so sorry for your loss. You and your family have our deepest sympathies. We are purring and praying for you.

May 25, 2008 8:41 am  
Blogger mah-meeee said...

i'm so sorry for your loss. i was shocked to read this post as i am just here for wordless wednesday.

you and your family will be in my thoughts.

May 28, 2008 7:49 pm  
Blogger Rain Trueax said...

How very sad to lose a child and there are no words that give consolation no matter what their age. I hope you find peace with this terrible loss

May 29, 2008 4:17 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am at you blog through Desert Diva's Twitter account....you have experienced the greatest loss of a parent...a beloved child....sounds like your son knew how well loved he was and is.....know that all of us are holding you up during this intense grief....

May 29, 2008 4:12 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh Tor, I am so sorry for your loss. I felt terrible reading about this. I know there is no amount of words enough to console you but I'll say a prayer for you and your family and for your son's soul too.


May 31, 2008 3:24 am  
Blogger Tinsie said...

So sorry for your loss, I've only just found out. May he rest in peace.

May 31, 2008 5:11 pm  
Blogger SandyCarlson said...

My heart breaks for you.

June 18, 2008 10:22 pm  
Blogger Unknown said...

The loss of your son brings tears to my eyes today and hurts in my heart. It would be hard to lose Patrick at 40 and his children. But his memory does live on and celebrating those memories are forever. :)

May 19, 2011 12:23 am  
Blogger La.. said...

Dear Tor: I'm sorry the departure of Ruben. I share your grief and I wish I could give you a big hug and long.
I always remember your smile and that's why you have a big heart.
Think of you, dear Tor.
A big hug from Ibiza


May 19, 2011 5:17 pm  

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