Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Papa: Days of joy, grief and celebration

I do not know the best way of telling a story of a lost life and at the same time about a new life soon to appear.
A life has gone. A new is to come.
Grief and happiness.
Saturday to Monday.
From Joy to remebering with Grief.



It's about my son who died on May 18 one year ago.
It's about my daughter that expects her first child second half of October this year.
It's about my daughters new Family that never get the chance to meet her oldest brother.
And a child that will never meet an uncle.
A person that devoted his life to help the poor. And at the same time the most talented footballplayer when 14.
A person that knew at the same time the most wealthy, cultural and those forgotten.

My daughters man and father of their child to come, did visit the Family grave. Cultural understanding and Respect - and also love.


We where there on Monday, May 18, on year excatly after my son's sudden death.

I will now bring you some joy and happiness.
You, my dear reader deserves some joy in your daily life:
Papa style.

Saturday was the EuroVision Song Contest Final in Moscow

Some food and joy around the Table


We were of course head of our local jury. Who else? Click to enlarge;))

Who did win with the largest margin ever?


Here you see - I say no more than we had fun
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Sunday - May 17 - National Day in Norway.

Royal Castle in the background

2009 - The Norwegian National Day

Kaya was in Norway for the First time


Flowers for all of you.
Just send me your e-mail. To see more. OK?

More photos here

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16 Comments:

Blogger Suzann said...

Dear Tor - one year is so difficult. It is the cycle of birth, life, death and rebirth -. so real and yet so hard. It is especially so tragic when your lost son was so young.

I weep with you for the loss of Ruben and I celebrate with you for the joy of the new grandbaby to come. Love and hugs always and forever across all the miles between us. xo

May 20, 2009 4:25 am  
Anonymous DianeCA said...

Although the hole that Ruben left in your life can never be filled, I see in these pictures so much for you to be grateful for. I see a family that has survived and is happy and is there for each other in thick and thin.

May 20, 2009 2:20 pm  
Blogger Mar said...

In the Circle of Life
It's the wheel of fortune
It's the leap of faith
It's the band of hope
Till we find our place
On the path unwinding
In the Circle, the Circle of Life

Some of us fall by the wayside
And some of us soar to the stars
And some of us sail through our troubles
And some have to live with the scars
Elton John.

I remebered this song as I was reading your post, Tor. Hard to believe it's been one year already...and there you are: facing the promise of a bright future through the birth of a baby. Congratulations!

May 20, 2009 3:33 pm  
Blogger Expat Traveler said...

I'm so happy you were surrounded by so much joy and so much fun! I can't believe a year has passed already, but alas.. you will have some new joy in your life too! :)

Great photos!

May 20, 2009 3:43 pm  
Blogger Sandee said...

I so remember this day last year. It was indeed a very sad day. A new life is coming though and that's a very good thing. You will enjoy being a grandpa.

Have a terrific day. Big hug to you and Anna. :)

May 20, 2009 6:37 pm  
Blogger lime said...

it is quite understandable that as you prepare to welcome a new family member you think of missing one who was taken from you. while one cannot replace the other i hope the joy can help take away some of the stinging pain.

and congrats to norway on its win :)

May 20, 2009 7:56 pm  
Anonymous RennyBA said...

I know 18th of May will be a difficult day, but I'm glad you also are able to remember the good things and memories!

How nice to have Kaya on our National Day and the winning evening before. I'm happy for him and your Ingelin!

From the pictures in Oslo, I can tell we where quite close this year too :-)

May 20, 2009 8:53 pm  
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May 20, 2009 9:00 pm  
Blogger TurboLotte said...

Very nice, very sad, and beautiful new expectations for life. Life comes and goes, no matter how hard we try to stop it.

May 20, 2009 9:36 pm  
Blogger OldOldLady Of The Hills said...

These Anniversary's are very difficult, I know....(It was one year ago on May 15th that my dear dear friend of 46 years, Hanna, died...) I cannot imagine what you must feel Tor...as you said, a New Life coming, but the sadness that he or she will never know The Dear Departed Uncle---your Son. Take Heart, dear Tor....these mixed feelings are so understandable, my dear....! And be gentle with yourself, always.

May 21, 2009 1:34 am  
Blogger Puss-in-Boots said...

One year already and the hurt is still fresh for you, Tor. It's so sad to lose a child, especially one in their prime. God go with both you and Anna and grant you healing. Hugs.

May 21, 2009 6:18 am  
Blogger Gattina said...

Wonderful news ! Your daughter expecting a baby !

May 21, 2009 7:12 am  
Anonymous Lifecruiser said...

He is resting peaceful now, Ruben, but will always be with you in your hearts. *sigh*

Wow. It must have been a fantastic first visit to Norway for Kaya, both the Eurovision song contest victory and the syttende mai celebration!!!! A marvelous first impression.

Those were some great photos really.

Congrats x millions once again for the new life that is coming. I know he/she will love grandpa & grandma so much :-)

I've been having a cold this week, so you have to forgive for not visiting earlier. My nose is flooding again. I really don't understand why I get those nose waterfalls.... Hubby is amazed over it too. It's gigantic.

I hope you can avoid it, they say that many is having a cold right now.

((hugs))

May 21, 2009 11:42 am  
Anonymous claudie said...

It's a great and nice post. Ruben était plein d'humanité envers les plus démunis. Sa mémoire sera précieuse pour le novel enfant qui arrive dans la famille!

May 23, 2009 9:32 pm  
Blogger Ginnie said...

Spring is the time of Death and Resurrection, Tor. You'll always be reminded! A tear and a smile!

May 25, 2009 7:14 pm  
Blogger Fleur de Lisa said...

Joy and grief. Life holds some of both for us all. Here's to more of the joy for you and yours, dear friend. ((Hugs))

May 28, 2009 3:39 am  

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