Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Monday - Tuesday - Can't believe it - Summer Cold

We are both - bbrrrrr - having heavy Summer Cold that has hit the both of us, the kind that repeats itself - you know.
(Photo taken by Anna during her visit to Hong Kong in June/July 2008)

I was even sent home from Work.
--- You need not TELL us you are Sick - we see it. That's the message I got.
--- Grrr - brrrr. It's true.
I'll see my Doctor on Wednesday. I will have a complete check. Not the "easy" type that allways tells I'm too well my age to be.
But I'm allways optimistic.
But this time; I have - may be, been too optimistic. Not taking my grief and sorrow in consideration. "Everything is Ok" - don't tell others about your loss (my Son)
I did learn a lot about grief when in US lately.

Had a looong call with Mr Lifecruiser in Sweden. And even looooonger with my dear friend Hakon in Southern France this evening and early Night.

See you all around as soon as possible. Take very good care of yourself.

PS. The Fall or Autumn is slowly arriving. Charming. With all what we can harvest from our tiny, steep Garden. The Sun gives us allready nearly 5 hours less light. The Cats still have a thrilling life outside. Our Blueberries - haha - Anna and papa did ate a lot, when we carried the firewood up the steep path. Haha - it's so steep even our vendor refuses to bring it up for 25% more paid.
The Grapes seems to be in good shape. And we have Apples for the next generation. Most of them will probably be given to Anna's students in down town Oslo. And, not to forget: Apple pies. And home made Chutney.

Apples from this tree will end their lifes in a Pie. For Kids. Or as Chutney.

More to come as soon as our fever is away

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Anonymous Maribeth said...

Ah my dear. Please take care. I found my health truly suffered after the loss of my daughter. I think when I tried to bottle it all up, it caused an internal meltdown of my health.
Be kind and good to yourself. Get plenty of rest and have a warm nightcap before you go to bed. Perhaps a brandy.

August 26, 2008 3:04 am  
Blogger Fleur de Lisa said...

My dear friend, I think grief has such a strong hold over our bodies. It is OK to be sad for the loss of your son. Please continue to take good care of yourself and of Anna. You are very lucky to have one another. I hope you are both well soon!

August 26, 2008 4:07 am  
Blogger TorAa said...

@Maribeth: I know we have a grief in common - a sorrow most parents hopefully will never experience. Right? My "mission" - if one can call phrase it such acedemic - is: Stick toghether and tell about your grief.
I did learn so much from Suzann's, open for bloggers to read, about her loss and grief. You know we met in Minnesota. A great help for the both of us.
Even in grief and sorrow, bloggers can really means more then close, daily friends. May be more?

August 26, 2008 4:17 am  
Blogger Michelle said...

I wish you well on your road to recovery! May it not be to horrible for you!

We seem to have gone from summer to late autumn over night. We had two days of 90 degree weather and then in has been raining off and on for the last 10ish days!

August 26, 2008 5:30 am  
Blogger Tim said...

I certainly can sympathize, Tor. When we lost our mom last year, an interesting chain of colds and 24-hour bugs hit us. Grief has a weird way of telling our bodies that it's something "heavy"

Ugh, don't remind me of firewood. We've not even begun collecting for the winter, and we're usually stacked full by the end of July. Sigh . . .

Oh, and we're looking at moving towards the Oslo area after next summer. Perhaps a get-together?

August 26, 2008 10:33 am  
Blogger TorAa said...

@Lisa: You have allways been there as a favourite blogger friend of mine. I know you have "your things" to think about as well. Take good care of your Son. They are so fragile in the age he is just now.

@Michelle: Thank you so much. It's strange to think about, when we thought we had a good hold of our grief, starting working again brought us back to "daily life" and - yeah our loss.

@Tim: First of all, I'm happy you are back in blogsphere again. Then, you are a person of knowledge and empathy. I know you have not allways had "easy times" - far from. Wish you and yours the very best. Hope we can meet in the Oslo area next year.

August 26, 2008 2:53 pm  
Anonymous ghee said...

Hi Tor,

yes,pls so take care of your health...to enjoy life to the fullest!!
im also surprisd bout the weather...its still summer,and yet,we have to wear light jackets already...its raining everyday,too!really weird...im scared to face winter in my new place,they say its colder here...brrr...i have to learn how to ski or ice skate then to enjoy and get used to it.

take care always Tor,

August 26, 2008 4:19 pm  
Blogger Shammickite said...

Tor: Please take good care of your health. Grief can play tricks on us... we think we are well, but it is inside us, working away at our being, and it has to come out, often in the form of poor health.... so listen to the doc and do whatever he says!
meanwhile, if you visit my blog, I think there are a couple of pictures that will bring a smile to your face!

August 26, 2008 4:23 pm  
Blogger Sandee (Comedy +) said...

I have suffered many losses in my life, but never a child. I do think grief and illness often go hand in hand. Feel better soon honey. You are in my thoughts and prayers as always. Big hug and lotsa lovies to you and Anna. :)

August 26, 2008 8:24 pm  
Anonymous Valarie said...

I'm so sorry you are feeling poorly. I wish you a speedy recovery. I wrote about our blueberry day on my blog.Visit if you feel up to it.
Take care and feel better.

August 27, 2008 3:56 am  
Blogger Mother of Invention said...

Sorry you have a cold! All kinds of people I know have the flu now which seems strange.
Yes, fall is here...it went down to 3C last night and we were huddled under many layers in our summer bedroom with all windows open!

We had a fabulous time up at the log cabins...I just posted some pics so come and look and canoe with us!

August 27, 2008 4:23 am  
Blogger Puss-in-Boots said...

A summer cold is the absolute pits, isn't it Tor? Still, you've had a pretty traumatic year one way or another...sometimes it comes out in our health.

Do take care of yourself and yes, see your doctor, there's no shame in looking after yourself.

Hope you're feeling better soon, my friend.

August 27, 2008 9:18 am  
Blogger Shionge said...

I came down with a temperature too over the weekend but better now just the throat. So take care Toraa, did you consult a doctor??

Ahhhh...Apples, love pie love pie love apple pies :D

August 28, 2008 7:09 pm  
Blogger OldOldLady Of The Hills said...

TorAa my dear....I am so sorry to read of your illness....I DO think one cannot minimize the importance of what happens to the body when in grief...It is very very profound and I hope you will take truly good care of yourself and be as kind to yourself as possible. The loss of a child is the worst thing that can happen to a person....I pray you take the best care possible and know that there are many people out here in Blogland who care and who understand. (((((((HUGS)))))))
Would that we could ease your pain, my dear, though, alas, we know we can't, except to let you know we support you and send you healing hugs.

August 28, 2008 7:35 pm  
Anonymous claudie said...

C'est une blessure profonde et le corps réagit pour exprimer tout le désarroi pour la perte terrible de son enfant. Heureusement les autres sont là pour aider à supporter l'insupportable. Et la vie vient nous sourire à travers le visage des petits enfants qui nous enchantent et nous permettent d'espérer.
Notre Anaïs en Finlande a un amoureux et ne semble pas sentir le froid ou plutôt la fraicheur qui s'est installée à Kajaani!

August 28, 2008 11:31 pm  
Blogger Suzann said...

My dearest friend - feel better from the cold - summer colds/illness are the worst. You know my heart is with you and I send golden light to you. Please do be gentle with yourself. Walking with you across the miles between. Hugs and more hugs to you and to Anna.

August 29, 2008 1:57 pm  
Anonymous Lifecruiser said...

You know, we've been sick at the same time. I've been too, but is probably in better status than you. Though I still have a cough this past week that won't quite go away. I've heard a lot of others have had it too.

I haven't had the energy to visit blogs though, very lazy ;-)

...and it has been a bit chillier outside, but even there you beat us ;-)

I hope you get better FAST and that it just were a "scare".

August 30, 2008 12:54 am  

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